Something I realised this morning while I was walking.
There is never a loss without a gain. So when something goes wrong you have to ask ‘how does it serve me’.
Looking back at my past experiences I realise I have gone through a lot of pain, but I also received a lot of positives. Whenever I feel anxiety about something that I think might cause me more loss than pleasure based on past experiences, I have to neutralise past memories by realising all the positives I received from the event until the positives outweigh the negatives, and the negatives dissolve.
I know that fear is an imbalanced perspective because there are no one sided events. I realise that there is nothing to feel anxious about because no matter what happens I will be able to handle it and I will receive a gain.
Moreover, I decided that being happy is a choice, so no outside event can ever take it away from me.